Nesting, refers to a transitional arrangement where divorcing or separating
parents continue to share the family home and take turns living in the
home with their children. This arrangement is uniquely child centered.
The goal of nesting is usually to provide a stable home for the children
while the marital status is in flux. This attempts to ensure that the
children’s lives are minimally disrupted, while the adults, bear
the brunt of the changes. Both parents establish their own separate residences
to be used during the other parties’ parenting time while also maintaining
the family home for the children who stay in the home full time. This
arrangement gives the children more time to adapt to other changes occurring
within the family without also adapting to a new home.
Nesting works best when parents separate their co-parenting responsibilities
from their marital conflicts, and remain amicable and cooperative as they
confer about continuing household arrangements and the children’s
needs. Nesting can be successful when the parents effectively communicate
with one another, and respectfully manage leaving the family home in a
reasonable condition when turning over the duties to the other parent.
Nesting arrangements require an immense amount of trust and respect between
the parties. There are issues of privacy, such as keeping one’s
personal property separate. There are issues of respect such as cleaning
up the house after their parenting time, and replacing groceries and toilet
paper. The issues that can arise are endless in number and need to be
considered prior to determining whether nesting is right for you. If nesting
increase conflict, it is not best for the children. This is not to say
that nesting is never a good idea, but it is one that needs to be thoroughly
considered before it is executed.
If you are currently involved in a divorce it is important to focus on
what would be best for your children, and whether a nesting arrangement
is in their best interests. Our experienced and passionate family law
attorneys are familiar with local and state laws regarding divorce and
the complex and stressful issues surrounding children in divorce. Our
assistance and guidance can help you through the process. If you are contemplating
divorce or are already in the midst and need assistance, please contact