Social media is everywhere these days, and people are constantly on their
phones, texting, sharing photos on Instagram and Facebook, or sharing
their opinions on Twitter. Many people use social media to vent their
frustrations and seek advice. This has become the norm for many.
While having instant access to information can be a wonderful thing, using
social media, email, and text messaging can create ample evidence in a
divorce or custody case, which can be used against one or both parties.
Emails and text messages are admissible in court and can be subpoenaed.
In fact, a message you thought was private can be used against you. Even
a seemingly harmless Facebook post about going on a vacation can come
back to bite you. While most people don’t list their incomes on
Facebook, many brag about their financial or professional successes. Additionally,
on some social media sites, such as LinkedIn, people list their entire
For example, a party in a divorce proceeding may claim he doesn’t
have a job and can’t afford child support. He may then post a photo
from his tropical beach vacation on Facebook. This may be evidence that
he is not telling the truth on his Financial Statement and could call
his credibility into question in front of the Court.
Social media often shows what a person is doing and when they are doing
it. A picture of a parent intoxicated may be considered by the court.
But a picture of a parent intoxicated during his/her parenting time with
their child is most likely to be significant.
Here are some tips to prevent negative effects from social media:
1. Stop using social media altogether. Because married couples have many mutual friends, blocking your ex or making
your account “private” may not be enough. You may still have
mutual friends and acquaintances that can relay the happenings to the
2. Don’t put anything in an email, text message or social media post
that you do not want a judge to see.
3. Don’t delete your social media account. Deleting a social media account after the proceeding has started may be
considered destruction of evidence by a court. Don’t delete the
account, just stop using it.
4. Don’t share information about the divorce or anything that happened
in Court or mediation on social media. Certain portions of proceedings may be confidential (like mediation), and
you don’t want to violate any orders.
5. Don’t vent about your ex online. Name calling or complaining about your ex is not going to help in the
long run and can be used against you. This can be especially harmful in
custody cases if the children have their own social media accounts and
can view the posts.
Remember, social media is entertaining, but it also has its potential dangers.
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